A great resource is at
www.americanhospice.com
Click under children tab.
“If a child is old enough to laugh, a child is old enough to grieve.”
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Here are things you can watch for and strategies you can implement to help the child/children through their grief process.
Possible Reactions:
withdrawal
aggressiveness
anxiety
guilt
fear
regression
symptoms of bodily distress
Suggested Strategies:
☺ Exercise patience and understanding; you may have to repeat yourself
☺ Hear with your ears, your eyes, and your heart
☺ Let them know it’s okay to cry, be sad or angry, and even smile
☺ Share your feelings with the children
☺ Shorten and simplify required work
☺ Be available and really listen
☺ Encourage children to express their grief openly
☺ Acknowledge the reality that grief hurts--do not attempt to rescue the child (or the class, or yourself) from that pain
☺ Provide a quiet, private place where a student may go whenever he or she feels a need to be alone
☺ Explore feelings about death, loss, and grief through books while fostering discussions as a classroom family
☺ If possible, meet with a few of the bereaved student’s friends to help them cope and explore how to be supportive
☺ Temper your expectations with kindness and understanding, but continue to expect the student to function
☺ Avoid clichés—“Don’t feel bad”, “Be strong”, “Keep busy”, “Time heals all wounds” etc.
Create an atmosphere of open acceptance that invites questions and fosters confidence that you are concerned.